THE THEORY OF LOVE

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All the people, in fact living or dead have lovers…Each person is a lover to some other person and that person may or may not be the lover to this person..But it happens that a person can love one or more people in his/her life…I don’t know why….exactly….Things like love and sex happen the most or I can say they are the most happening things in teenage…Dating is one of the platform to make or select a person to be your lover..

I have a doubt…I read things like…”love happens” and lines like “love at first sight”, then what is real need of dating???

I often find  people say friendship is a platform which may or may not end in love…but it is surely a platform for love…Till today many people round the world have some kinda confusion when it comes to drawing lines between friendship,love and lust…

I always find by my analysis or logical deduction that lust doesn’t need love…at least it only needs love while having sex…while love has lust in it…all love stories have or contain some thing called the “explicit” content which is called sex…because I feel a man and a women can or will be able to express things,(which cannot be expressed by language) only through sex…..

Friend is  a person with whom you actually can share 90% things happening in your life…

lover is a person with whom you can share the remaining 10 % things(+90%) happening  in your life…

I also find people share things depending on the compatibility factor… I think it is one of the reasons or it is the priority to choose our friends…

According to the compatibility theory,the more compatible you are with a person..more are the chances of you people becoming friends…

Till 3 years back,Love to me is the relationship that exists between a boy and a girl…but now the definition of love attained diversity….’diversity of sex’

the following  3 lines explain the above 2 lines….

a) boy loving a girl and a girl loving a boy,it is a straight relation and it is a normal one

b) boy loving a boy…this is hypothetical relation,in the past. But now it is  a very practical one..a gay relation…

c)girl loving a girl…a lesbian relation…

If you carefully observe the above lines you can actually find an interesting fact!!

love is independent of the thing called the “opposite gender”…it can happen to people of same gender too!!

so the first postulate of the theory of love is

“love is independent of the thing called the “opposite gender”…it can happen to people of same gender too!!”

the gay thing

why should boys have all the fun ??

a legal relation....

I feel one of the differences between love and friendship is something called the “possessiveness”. You don’t have this in friendship,but it exists in a relation….let me tell you why…

the first point is love is not friendship and friendship is not love…love is different from friendship…

Possessiveness comes into the picture when your priorities change for the same person…when I say these words I mean if you are in a relation with a friend of yours…I define possessiveness as a feeling of having a person for only themselves…It is common feeling one has towards his love  in a relation…when this thing grows in smarter,faster and in a better way..you find that relation in trouble…

Everything in this world has some limiting points or the threshold points which one shouldn’t cross at any point of time under any circumstances ,like everything in this nature… a relation has some limiting points too!!

the second postulate of theory of love is

“friendship is  stronger relation as it doesn’t have something called the possessiveness”

its possessiveness!!

possessiveness implies hands tied !! very sad !

people tend to feel and think of living their life with the person they love…and many believe love is the step below marriage…

All love stories doesn’ t end in marriage,why is it so??

According to me, marriage is future relation and love is the present relation… In many cases,in fact in most cases love happens in the first step and marriage in the second step….Only in a very few cases the inverse of it happens….

There is always a notion of present, past and future in a relation..However past is regarded as trash as far as the this postulate is considered….

If you are happy in the present,the chances or the probability of you being happy in the future are more…But if you are not happy in the present,you tend to think of a break up rather than getting married…This is what happens in most of the cases…So,most relations do not end in marriage…

The third postulate of theory of love is

“love is weaker relation than friendship,as you may or may not be happy all your life…” 

its friends and friendship....

Each of us have fantasies…which we want to be true,with the person we love…if by some reasons that person is not appreciating our fantasies,that is a problem…everyone thinks in their own natural way… and have different opinions… so there is always this 50-50 chances of our fantasies becoming true,which is not a happy news to many of us…

the fourth postulate of theory of love

“love is not sex and sex is not love..sex is a part of love”

the pleasure

model of missionary...

problems in a relation commonly refers to problems in love between 2 people of opposite sex….

I think these kinda problems comes into picture because of the feeling of insecurity….

the question of “Am I secure in the relation?” When you think that way,I suggest you strongly to get out of that relation because there is every possible chance of the other person in the relation getting hurted and you actually do not have the right to hurt anybody,at least the person you love!!

the fifth and final postulate of the theory of love….

”     ‘we’  sounds better in fact it sounds the best in a relation than the word  ’  I  ’  . So say  ’we’  are happy, than  ’I'm’ happy in a relation”

"we" are happy...

NOTE: ”The theory of love is a generalized theory which can be applied to any relation in this world,irrespective of caste,creed,religion,race,geography,landscape,weather,eating habits etc…”-ITS VISHU

THE RELIGION OF ATHEIST

This article is a thought,which is made after analysis of what I know about the word ‘religion’, ‘atheism’, ‘worship’..

NOTE: please do read this article if you believe in the term ‘logic’  and ‘analysis’

People,God,worship,atheist,determination,trust,affection,emotions,faith,determination etc etc…

Getting confused,okay..let me tell you in an organized way..

I have a few questions for you

1) Can you define God?

2) Can you define faith?

3) How do you know he\she\God be faithful to you??

4) Why should you believe in God??

5) Is there something called GOD ?? if so what does he do??

According to me, there is nothing called God, you are created by your parents only your parents and no one else, if you think or define GOD to be the creator of universe,then is he the creator of you?? if he is the creator of you, then who are your parents??

So,to me at least my parents are my God,and I respect them.. Coming to ‘theory of God’ which to me is a creation, let me tell you HOW TO ME THE CONCEPT OF GOD IS A CREATION….

I dono who is GOD

In nature there is always something GOOD and BAD,POSITIVE and NEGATIVE which can be generalized as opposites. Now the question is the representation of the opposites…To represent the good and bad in the societies myths,stories etc. are written.

As there are scholars and spiritual people around the world,they might thought of something called the representation of good.. To represent good,you need a character..But, the human mind is such that it gets pulled to the things which happen physically and appear beautiful to their eyes,pleasant to their ears and tasty to their tongue..that is what is called BAD by the spiritual people .. let me tell you why..

theological math

If you take for example the sentence or wateva “tasty to the tongue”,which I’ve mentioned in the above lines, If you take a chocolate ice cream which is wow!! and yummy..you eat it,you like it,you’ll eat everyday..day after day..day after day..and day after day… after a long time of eating the choco creams a day comes when you have to go to your doctor, and he realizes that you’re body is affected by defected things and you know from where these come into your body?? It is through the  ”yummy” chocolate ice cream..so finally the “yummy” thing blows your body up!! so it is BAD…..(take into consideration that,you eat only choco ice cream too much and your digestive system got spoiled because of that)

The pity about the human life is people only learn things only from their experiences,not by teaching or preaching..these spiritual people are really brainy,very strong at mind and heart..and know the ‘PURPOSE OF LIFE AND PURPOSE FOR LIFE’ whereas the common man do not,and he does things which come in his way….

So,these brainy people thought and thought…and after a long thought they created characters and wrote stories using their imagination and proved the stories in certain instances, now these stories tell the common man the GOOD and the BAD…

The creation of a creator

In every story,good wins and bad loses..this is  nature…and according to the stories, good is represented as GOD and bad is represented in many forms say DEMON

There is a question,called “why is necessary to tell people by creating stories?? why not directly,through words in a normal way???”

Now this is interesting,

you know scholars are also humans, and humans do not tend to listen to other humans  simply….. guess its because of the nature of humans…

angel of good

So if you are able to create anything which is beyond human understanding, human questioning and reasoning, something strange and beautiful people tend to get attracted to it and then they try to understand the things. In this way you can actually teach good to the people and thus create a really good society…

God is the representation of good in the society,and evil is the representation of bad….

mr.evil

I think GOD and EVIL exist in a human… All the good qualities a person has is called good and god of that person and all the bad qualities one has are his weaknesses and called BAD….

The more the percentage of good in a person,more is the God in him,more is evil in a person he is called BAD…people know what is good and what is bad..and act according to that..

Fortunately,we all believe in good and not bad….being optimistic is one way of increasing the amount of good in you thereby increasing the God in you…

Atheism is ”  lack of belief in the existence of God or gods “

the Atheist

I say every Atheist is a theist and let me tell you how…..

Atheist doesn’t believe in God but not in good…he also believes in good because he is human and all the people believe in good and want to lead a happy and comfortable life…

According to me and my theory of God..God is good so a person who believes in good is a theist…and thats me and so are all of us….