Happy friendship day.

Today as people say is ‘Friendship Day’. Friendship in its own essence is the support we give to other people for free without charging any money or not expecting anything in return.

When we say we have a friend, we also try to imply that we are not lonely. But a thorough understanding of your mind is really required when we think of these sought of aspects in our lives.

Our mind, I don’t know whether consciously or sub-consciously wants some other person not for the sake of wanting them, but to share some of the things which it cannot allow to stay in itself. These things as far as I know are emotions and emotionally drawn events.

In the first place, if we think of our emotions, they are within us from the day we are born making us fall in into the world which is beautiful. It is only through our emotions that we live day and night.

We are strong enough to lead our lives for the goal we set individually. But, we seek support from others whom we are comfortable seeking help, these guys are termed friends.

When we give or do something to someone we know, we subconsciously feel that he/she is a friend and I trust him/her. Without trust, their wont be friendship. I never read or saw someone helping others without the trust for him/her. When I say ‘I trust him/her’, we assume things which may/ may not be true about that particular person. But the irony is, without trust we cannot help people because of the fear we develop towards helping that guy.

Fear is that which makes us take a back step. So in order to help we have to have trust in the person.

Every person cannot be predicted, ie) every person cannot be understood. Understanding a person helps us in judging the person thereby building trust for that person. As every person cannot be understood completely we cannot build trust or develop a faith in that person.

Friendship in a generic sense is a relationship which involves two people. Every relationship has expectations when we approach them practically. In a theoretical sense we do should not expect anything.

Though we think that we understand a person, that may not be a complete understanding of that person. Every person’s friend cannot understand a person completely because we come into that person’s life in a certain period of his life. The person he is before can only be said, and cannot be experienced. It is from the past experiences that person’s behavior depend, so utmost the friend can think of a reason for the person’s behavior.

If we cannot understand the person completely, we cannot build trust which necessary for a friendship. Now as we can, no one can be a friend to no one.

So, let me put out the essence of what I want to tell you all….

Every person is a friend to himself. He exists with him and for him. No other person can help judge any other person. It is a man sole purpose to be himself, for he doesn’t care about any other person before his time nor after his time. 

A man’s best friend is himself. Trust your intuition, it’ll help you become what you want to become. Happy friendship day to all.

The purpose of anything and everything

“Everything we see around us exists around us with a purpose”. The purpose of anything and everything is what we should know to lead a lifestyle which makes sense. The technology is improving day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute and I think it is also improving second by second. The different gadgets we have, the different gadgets we’ve made over the past few decades seems to have the up-gradation in terms of design, performance etc. But what is the purpose of the very existence of gadgets?

When I read about the various civilizations of our human race, I’ve realized 4 important things.

  • The physical appearance remained the same i.e) there is no change in the physical structure, the Pharaoh‘s have the same number of limbs as the Greeks. The Greeks had the only one brain as that of the people of Indian and Chinese civilization. 
  • All the people of ancient civilizations had the same emotions and feelings like us (the present human race) the feeling of love, hatred etc are the same for the us and our predecessors.
  • The social system of the past and the present is almost the same.
  • The way people lived has changed. The lifestyle what we live is different from that of our ancestors and the ancient people.

 Arts and the science are the two main things or the most important things every civilization is based upon. The foundations of any civilization are based on the administrative system. The improvement of any civilization is based on science. The Greeks, the Chinese, The Egyptians, The Indians etc have many similarities. But these civilizations have a different lifestyle because of the geographical conditions. The geographical factors affect the civilization.

The strong administrative principle of the past is the same. But the development in science which led to the development in the technology has made the world more connected and more developed on terms of how we communicate and how we learn things.

To me, the past things made much sense than now. A balance existed between the nature and the man which made those civilizations strong and helped them to make a mark on the world we live in. The balance is lost to some extent in the present day. The philosophy of why and how has relatively a less significance now than the world before a 100 plus generations.

It is only the man who is responsible for all the changes happening in this world at this very moment of time. I believe in barter system than the trade system. Because of the trade system, the science and its developments, the technology and its developments  are linked with the money. If money is not the standard of measure then we would have lived in a world which is much safer, much peaceful with much more harmony than ever before.

 

Move ON – Moving ON – Moved ON

‘Move’ ,’On’ are 2 simple words. I don’t understand of the meaning when both of them are spelled as one word. Although I tried several times to understand its meaning, I failed. The point that I don’t understand might be one of the reasons that I can’t appreciate ‘move on’.

Many at times my friends or my acquaintance use this word in many situations. They say ‘move on’  after an end of  a relationship or when they break a beautiful phone or after a little fight etc.

I’m confused as to why and when people use this word. When you don’t understand the meaning it is much waste of time listening to words like these.  ‘move on’ always looked or appeared to be much pessimistic to me. Does ‘move on’ mean get over it or forget about it ?

If that is what it meant, then I have many questions !!

Firstly, concerning a relation, can you forget your partner who has been there with you all through your life and when he/she leaves you, is it possible to get over it and live the rest of your life with a smile on your face?

My point is you cannot get over an event which has the thing or the person you love or the person you care the most. It is not that thing the every person can do. Though I don’t say or support my point to a maximum, but I don’t believe that it is an easy task or an easy test which everyone can face. There is a lot of mental trauma you have to undergo, which also causes physical trauma to some people.

It is all the emotional connection we  build over period of time with people,pets and things that it becomes possibly an impossible task to take them out of our minds and hearts.

Secondly, we should understand when a person is ‘moved on’ either by failure in his/her profession, he/she can work hard look for an opportunity and succeed in his/her profession by building a career rather changing his/her profession every now and then.

In relations, I do not know how it is possible to move on!  You can’t leave a relation and dump your partner just like that or because you’ve found a guy or girl more handsome or beautiful. You cannot forget the person you’ve been with, if you can then I’ll call you an uncivilized animal rather than a human.

If you can ‘move on’ with the first, you’ll try to find a second, when you are not happy with your second, you’ll try to find the third and the list goes on !! Try rather to adjust your space with your partner rather than saying ‘move on’!!

Being Happy is being foolish

The whole point of being happy is the way we ruin ourselves.

Every person wants happiness…and want to lead a happy life. But I the act or aim of being happy  is foolish because when you want to lead a happy life you will take away other’s happiness. And when you take others happiness for you to live happy, then there is no meaning in you being  happy!!!

Many people have ideas and they want to make their ideas come true and by realizing their dreams or ideas they’ll be happy. Every person should realize that for every effective execution of an idea there will be loss in happiness of other people….I can say that happiness in the world where we live is constant, like the energy of the world is constant. Energy transfers from one place to another and the happiness also transfers from one place to another.

Happiness transfers from one person to another by the changing emotions in a  person.

According to me,the analogy of me comparing energy with happiness is apt.

An example::::::::

Consider the life of a girl or a boy who is around 20 yrs old doing her graduation .She has many things around her…She sees many things around her and there is every chance of her, getting influenced by her surroundings…So she’ll do things what others round her are doing..As her idea is being happy,She’ll do things which others do,and by that she starts a quest to be happy and she doesn’t understand she has been influenced and an impact has been created on her by the surroundings round her.

A decision taken by us will have many factors and other people’s decisions acting on our decision…..So we can be happy only by minding our business and taking care that we do not get influenced by our surroundings,which we cannot !!

Random Thoughts

“The point of choosing your partner is the way where you compare the things you want in a person with the person and NOT comparing 2 or more people for the sake of choosing a partner”.

 

“The term “enjoying life” differs from person to person ,and the rest of the world has nothing to do with the person’s tastes.”

 

“Girls like people who speak softly. But I don’t understand why do they yell on their boyfriends ???
Guess there is not rule that girls have to speak soft ”

 

“Behaving the way you are is the best way you can be remembered by others”

 

“The most useful thing for a girl is her boy friend and the most useless thing for a boy is his girl friend…though many don’t say it…but still they mean it and most importantly they feel it”

 

“Care people who care you and never care people whom you want to take care about…at the end it hurts you a lot..because you will not be cared or spared by the people you love and care ”

 

“Everyone has the right to drink , right to sleep but not Right to f*ck… who cares a the marks if didn’t get a job? likewise who cares the above rights when the most important thing which many people want goes missing”

 

“Perfect examples of girls and infact woman
1) Helen of Troy
2) Mary Jane of Spiderman
3) Rachel of Batman

Well the irony of the above is these women can love one or more men !!”

 

 

“When life says fuck  you , you just fuck it like never before.”

 

 

Destiny and Development

Destiny and Development are two different things but actually one depend on the other. The destiny of the next generation depends on the development of the present generation. And again you should consider that a country is made up of people and each person of the country should be developed for the whole country to be developed and every person on this planet has a destiny (if you believe in destiny) . The relation between destiny and development is of great importance .

Your destiny has an effect on the country’s development and as country’s development affect other people’s destinies I can say that your destiny affect others destiny. Each and every person should be conscious of what are they doing and why are they doing something.

If you develop yourself your develop your destiny and if you develop your destiny you develop your country’s destiny and if that happens you will helpful in developing other people’s destinies too…

There is no rule that a person born in a country should live in his/her country only and he/she is not allowed to migrate to other country. So if a person migrates to another country he takes his destiny along with him and he helps people of the migrated country to develop .

The point of destiny and development is that they are inter related things and if think this way you can find the relation among them.

now , let me tell you how does your destiny gets affected by others. As I said you affect other’s destiny, others also affect your destiny.

lets say you are in a relation or you are doing a job you don’t like or not comfortable with, then this affects your destiny. You are really responsible for your destiny and also others can affect your destiny and thereby the development.

If you are in a relationship the first thing you loose is your freedom (at least to certain extent) and the words compromise and sacrifice come into picture. And if they come into your life your destiny will have a shift. I don’t say the shift is good or bad. But I can definitely say that there’ll be a shift for sure. If you consider the shift to be postive then the outcome will be positive and again as we know every coin has 2 sides so as life has 2 sides good and bad. Now the bad side of the relation is break up and now when this happens this has an impact and your destiny changes and again the change can be good or bad.

If you think in a bad sense then the outcome will be bad for sure. Although I cannot guarantee that relations affect your destiny, but I’m still convinced with the fact that they change your destiny to some extent because your mind , soul and your time will be another person thereby you instead spending time on developing yourself spend time with your mate I guess which has low scope of development.

The Best Gifts

the best gift you can gift your love is you

the best thing you can do is , try to be yourself.

the best help you can do to others is make them happy rather than hurting them with the sword of words you have in your mouth.

If you are hurt by a person , never try to hurt a person instead try not to hurt any person like the person who did hurt  you.

love :(

‎”love is in air , love is in water , love is in sand and love is on land but love aint in people and hearts”- its_vishu

An Orphan like ME

When you don’t have anyone who takes care of you,you tend to be very idiotic and i think that is one way..Coming to the other way I dono what people call it,when a person has his parents and still if he is idiotic enough for not realising he has people to take care off and give him what he want rather than what he needs or require,that bloody shit of a person still expects more from his parents…I dono why people have sex and give birth to their babies and throw their babies into a dustbin filled with shit of money where people with money can only survive…The philosophical way of interpreting the things which I’ve mentioned above is,

Man is a fool and God is a Demon

I say man is a fool because he never has the vision which is necessary for the extension of his family…I say man is idiotic because he is foolish enough to get deceived by something called the beauty of women . If we stupid people are able to realize that we live in mere fantasy or virtual reality and I think the truth to be something called “peace” . I define peace as having something to eat what you get do what you wana do and tell people about the things from your experiences and  also ask them to come out this shit and have a life where you do no harm to people around you..

Having a child is not a wrong thing , to be in a general sense but leaving the child alone and people round him begin to say that your parents are really bad people,they have no responsibility of taking care of you…In that kinda situations where the child becomes really an idiotic fellow and also do some stupid stuff like what I’m doin doing right now….I think this post do not make any sense…I think this to be a non-sense having some sense in it…The best  part of the story is that people without money should die,because these people like all others have all physical wants and mental satisfaction…To have either of them money is must these days and people like me should die as I cannot do what I want to..In this money driven world you’ll be compelled to do what fetches you money rather than what  gives peace of mind and happiness…And that is a pity world we live in!!!!!

A ‘loveless’ love story

“love can be deadly and disturbing” 

Long long ago…the year was 2009, when I actually saw and read the strange story of two people which I’m gona tell you now…Although this post is fictional,it is based on true incidents happened in 2009… It was a winter night and there was a slight drizzle when I sitting in the balcony of my room and watching the  empty road which was very flat and long, very very interestingly..There is only one street light which was flickering down the lane, I could see a person with his sweatshirt on, walking towards a tree on the other side of the road..he did a lot of things like exercise,sleeping,eating I dono why. It was night, the road was empty and this person is acting weird!! This made my interest’s adrenaline pump.So I was taking a close look at his activities.I guess 1hr passed and I saw another person probably a girl,who was walking on the road I could make that as I used a binocular to actually know what is exactly happening..As it was night and the street light didn’t have any interest to support my interest I have to do every possible thing to get to know what is exactly happening there at that tree.

The girl walked past the tree and has nothing to do with the boy in the sweatshirt.I guess the boy was actually waiting  for some one. But  no one met him in the next 2 hrs. All my interest was drowned like a ship of Titanic.The drizzle stopped and  the man started to sleep under that damn tree I don’t know the reason exactly (may be he’s thrown out of his house) . I don’t know when I slept,but I too slept in that very damn chair in the balcony itself. It was half past 4 in the morning I don’t know what woke me up,I woke up and my closing eyes saw something which made them wide open!! The person in that sweat shirt was dragged onto the road and had a shiny yellow  bladed  knife in his stomach and smooth cut of his throat . The grey t-shirt turned red and his pants were really wet with blood. My eyes and me  couldn’t believe the scene and I thought for a sec my binocular was playing games, but the scene was real and the things I said now were actually facts!!

I wasn’t afraid of the scene I dono why . The person in front  of me,lying dead had my sympathy rather than my fear. I thought poor boy and started to look at him closely and this time the street lamp showed interested along with a little sunlight.I really now have a better view of the body than yesterday night. The body was looking pale and his face was low,white and lacked the human charm his body has 3 wounds one was a cut along his throat and his oral cavity was opened through which I could see ants and other insects going into and coming out of the oral cavity.The yellow bladed knife is still shining and has his liver attached to it,I could also see a yellow fluid near that knife along with the liver.It was the bile juice I realized all the anatomy I studied these years was all in front of my eyes.He has blood all over his body. The scene was not so photogenic I thought I could have some photo but I don’t want to as the site was a bit disturbing.

It was 6 am and people began to come out of their houses onto the roads and followed by them was the police people . These people are so frightened to see a dead body lying on the street.May be,some one of them called the police and police made a stylish entrance with their black and red Ford cars…Along with the police came a bunch of people in white costumes,I’d rather call them as people in white uniforms,made some tests collected some things out from the dead body . In the mean time the media people’s population increased exponentially and the number of common people reduced. The media people were yelling and to me this site was a greater horror than the site which I saw in the morning!! it was about two hours I could hear their screams when I was brushing,bathing, having my breakfast and my lunch!! Finally it was 2pm and all the people along with the person in the sweatshirt vanished and gave me some peace…I was asleep for the next 5 hrs it was evening when my dad came with his face confused & puzzled. It was night after my dinner, dad & I sat before the TV as my net internet connection was kept in an coffin buried with my low scores. Like the life time of a person depends on his health,my internet connection’s life depends on my scores at the university.

Dad switched to a news channel which covered the whole of our street crime scene and reported that the convict  responsible for the crime was held by the city police later this evening .Though police denied to give any information about the case,according to the news sources,the convict was a relation to the victim.I was shocked,though I did not know the truth about the story,I believed the news channel report.So I thought how could a person kill his relation? This was very annoying. Dad turned the TV off and went to bed and I did the same thing. I thought if I had any chance to know the truth what has happened,I’ll know it. Although this is a common case and common news to many people around the world.This crime is special to me! It all happened and I’m a witness. So I thought I could go to police a tell what I know,but I have a question flashing…why would the police believe me? I should tell the police or inform police about something the man and I know, and no other person except us.So I went to the police station(first time).It is bit different from what I see in the movies. I went to a police who typing something very fast,and  said him that I have some information regarding the case.The police turned to me and said go to the person their,he’ll take you to the officer handling this case. I had to wait for 3 hours.The police station is a busy place and had all kinds of people coming in and going out(and very very messy).

Finally I met the officer and said him what all I saw that night. The officer had an expression of an actor listening to a film story.When I’m done he took me to the convict,I don’t know why and he has showed me a the convict’s cell, and said he’ll come in 1 hour and asked me to have a look at the convict as he got an phone call (may be he has some urgent appointment) and gave me permission to talk to the convict if I want to..The cell was dark I couldn’t find the face of the convict I could only make the shape of the convict. When the light is on in the corridor of the place,I realized the convict was a girl!! I couldn’t believe the site and asked the in-charge police officer to check for the case number 091143 and confirmed the cell number was the same and she is the convict the police had. I was shocked at the site and was actually tensed as how could a girl do  it. How could she do such a crap ?? Is she related to the man?? Many questions are settled in/on my mind and I started jotting the questions in a rough manner on a paper and when she finally turned to me,the site aroused fear in me though she was very beautiful and had a great smile.

I gathered some courage to ask her about the man(victim) and I said what all I saw, to her for no reason.After listening to me,she said ” I love him and I’m the girl you saw who went past him that night, I didn’t actually kill him,I only made him go free from his sufferings. ” I didn’t understand  what she was actually speaking. I had a face which was blank and cold. She saw me and said “if you wana know the story of what has happened give me the book and pen you are carrying and collect the book tomorrow. I did as she said and went home. Next day after a lot of request and a little bribe the police allowed me to meet her and she didn’t speak anything and gave the book to me I could see the pen and its empty refill in a corner of the cell. I thanked her and had a question why she is doing all this,with that question in mind I came home,kept the book in my shelf and started to have my lunch while the TV was running.

The news channel reported the latest happenings of the case and said that the crime involved a women who was one of the many girl friends of  the victim whose name is Bob. Although the convict claims she is the only girl friend of Bob,the investigation says Bob has 17 girl friends and he has the habit of ‘changing’ his girl friends very often. An interesting fact is, the victim is the convict’s 23rd boy friend. My mind’s blown after watching the entire report of the news channel. I finished my lunch, but I could’t remember what I actually ate.Though I slept I’m only interested to know what happened,why was he killed ? These questions along with many other related questions made me to sit and look at the book in my shelf with a fear,curiosity,interest and horror. Though I don’t wana tell you the reasons for all the above mentioned emotions,I can the share with you, what she wrote in the book  with you. Before I could start to share those things,I recommend you/advice you the below content is only for strong heart-ed people(not for weak heart-ed).

The below is what the convict girl wrote in the book.

The ‘loveless’ love story

We met in the summer of 2008, though many of my friends said he is not a great guy,I didn’t think so…we were everywhere roaming,partying, drinking and most importantly f*ckin. He changed me completely in two months of our relationship. He was such a sweet guy who gave me presents every now and then and surprised me very often. He introduced me to his family and I gathered some courage and introduced him to my family. Though our parents didn’t like our relationship they are not against it. My mom only warned me not to have an sex with Bob,though we did it very often. I love him more than he loves me. We are possessive, obsessed and mad about each other. I don’t think the things we did any couple won’t dare to do any of them. I don’t want to tell you all of those. But I’l tell you one such incident.It was new year 2009 we were partying at a bar,they were many couples that day.we were dancing and drinking suddenly he began to smooch me and we smooched hardly and wildly for a long time (one of my friend said we kissed for 1hour).

Although we love each other,they were many fights,we hurt ed each other mentally and physically as well.This hurting  became very common and our love story became ‘loveless’ love story at one point of time. I never believed in people,and what they say about Bob earlier and now I didn’t believe Bob after listening to people.It was high time I thought and all people around us thought of a break up. Before the day of our break up Bob posted the videos of our sex in a porn site, and also in his facebook profile and tagged our friends in it. This thing shocked me like never before and all people and friends were calling me up . I don’t now whether it is fortunate or unfortunate,my parents were out of the town when all this happened.

I didn’t know what to do. I only cried and cried . I called up Bob,he said he’ll come to my house in 30 min. When I saw him I couldn’t control myself from slapping him. He started to support his act by telling me,”as now all of us know we  did it,our parents do not have any choice or option except they should agree for our marriage. ” I was hurt ed very badly,my family was hurted too and I knew it…I started realizing all the things which appeared good turned suddenly into a hell . I knew I couldn’t do anything now..He got a call and he said he’ll be leaving and left. I’m alone in my house fucked up,crying and didn’t know  what to do.Few days passed, On the night of the murder, I was going to my house when I saw Bob  near a tree waiting for some one..I went to my house as it was night Bob didn’t recognize me. I sat on the terrace of my house and started to observe Bob,at 2am I saw a girl (most probably) came to Bob, and I could see under the street light they made love. I couldn’t control that. So I thought of going to Bob and stop it…  I went to them,he is finger fucking her with a cloth in her mouth.It appears she had orgasms in the mean time. Bob looked at me and I don’t know why he took a knife,he took a knife and tried to pierce me,but I some how managed to keep the knife in his stomach. The girl who got fucked took a knife and slit his throat. I was shocked by her action.

She looked at me and said,”this bastard has made you a hooker. I wanted to kill him as he did the same thing with me too. It is better we leave now”. She dragged him to the road near the tree and made a deep cut in his stomach,near the wound I made and confirmed he is dead by now and left along with her knife. I stared at the dead body of Bob, for minute and tears rolled down my eyes . I was afraid I could get caught,I went to my house. I made Bob,relieve from me(his suffering) . I’m happy now.No regrets.

On the last page of the book she wrote….

I advice you not to fall in love , have sex and mess your life up.

After reading the book, I had no words in my mouth,no thoughts in my mind and everything appeared to be blank for a minute. It was night by the time I finished reading the book my  dad came,I hid the book among-st the text books and went for dinner.My dad switched on the TV and got to the news channel which reported another convict in Bob’s case was held today afternoon and both of them were sent to custody.This case is reported as a open and shut case…as both of the convicts admitted the crime.

Few days later….

I read in the newspaper, both women admitted the crime and were given a ‘death sentence’ .

This is a tale of love, death and disturbance.